That girl was me.
I was the sad, pathetic girl who clung to the confident, cocky, arrogant, self-obsessed boy, inflating his ego by the second because nothing he did would get rid of me. Enter the following cases (names and details have been changed to protect the guilty).
The Case of the Pathetic Girl #1:
Home Dude and I started out as merely friends. He had a girlfriend and we spent a lot of time together, just chilling and laughing and having a good time. Somewhere in that spending time together, Home Dude and I realized we liked each other. Problem: girlfriend. Neither of us was a fan of cheaters, and he said he would break up with her because he wanted to be with me. We continued to spend time together, trying hard to just be friends, and I waited. And waited. And waited. Home Dude would complain about Girlfriend non-stop, infuriating me because he wouldn't break up with her.
What I should have done: WALKED AWAY. Realized he was too cowardly to break up with Girlfriend and had enough pride to remain single.
What I did: Called Home Dude daily and nagged him constantly to break up with her.
End result: Home Dude quit answering my phone calls.
The Case of the Pathetic Girl #2:
Macho Man's family was planning a family vacation to the beach. I got together with Macho Man's mom and arranged to stay with the family at the beach as a surprise to Macho Man. The day before my friend drove me to the beach, I let it slip to Macho Man that I was coming. Warning sign: He wasn't excited. In fact, he seemed nervous. I let it go. Maybe he had indigestion. My friend drops me off and stays with some other friends close by. Macho Man acts a little distant and funny but won't give me any definite answers until day #2. On day #2, he admits there's another woman. WHAT?!?
What I should have done: Walked out of the beach house, called my friend, and gone to stay with her. Never talked to him again.
What I did: Spent the next three months calling, visiting, sending flowers, and making a fool out of myself trying to show him I was the better woman.
End result: Every time he had a fight with her, he called me up and acted like he wanted to get back together, stringing me along for as long as I was willing to put up with it.
Case of the Pathetic Girl #3:
YoYo Boy and I had reached a point in our relationship where marriage was on the table. He suddenly begins to have a cold feet reaction every time it got brought up, which is quite concerning. But nothing seems wrong with the relationship, so I think maybe we just needed to slow down. And then one time I call, and his mom tells me she's not SUPPOSED TO TELL ME, but he's out with his ex-girlfriend. I confront him, he gets mad that his mom told me, and tells me that he just can't choose between the two of us.
What I should have done: BROKEN UP with him! You don't offer a girl a wedding ring and then tell her you're not sure.
What I did: Moved in with his sister so he could see me on a daily basis while he decided which girl to marry.
End Result: He never did break up with me. I figured it out on my own when he quit calling me and then they got married.
Lesson I hope to teach my daughters: Don't ever be pathetic! And remember, there's always another woman, so play hard to get! Make him do the chasing!
(And that is how I got my husband.)
How did you learn not to be pathetic? The hard way (like me) or from watching other people?